Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of pursuing women, I suddenly realized that many men are complaining: "Women are so hard to understand!" Actually, I think it's not that women are hard to understand, but rather that we often fail to grasp their subtext. Today, I want to share my observations and insights, hoping to help those who are troubled by romantic issues.

I remember a time when my friend Xiao Zhang was pursuing a woman who said, "I don't want to be in a relationship right now." Xiao Zhang felt disheartened and gave up. Later, I found out that the woman actually had a good impression of Xiao Zhang, but she was under a lot of work pressure at the time and wanted to focus on her career first. You see, this is a classic case of not understanding the subtext. When a woman says, "I don't want to be in a relationship," it might just mean "not right now," not "never."

Speaking of this, I recall a case mentioned in Sister Yu's emotional talk video, which had a whopping 78,000 views. She said that when a woman says, "You're a nice person," it's often not a polite rejection but a hint that "you can keep trying." This perspective is really interesting and reminds me of a comment from a netizen: "I missed so many opportunities because I was too honest!"

Actually, women's way of speaking is quite intriguing. They often don't express themselves directly but use subtle ways. For example, "I've been very busy lately" might be testing your patience; "I don't think we're a good match" might be seeing if you'll persist; "Go find someone else" could be a sign of jealousy. These subtexts require us to understand with heart.

However, understanding the subtext is just the first step; the more important thing is how to respond. As Jiarui from Western Guangdong said, pursuing women requires strategy—not too fast, not too slow. I think the most important thing is to remain sincere while knowing when to take the initiative. After all, relationships are a two-way street, and one-sided efforts are hard to sustain.

Finally, I want to say that everyone is a unique individual, and there's no one-size-fits-all method for pursuit. What's important is to gradually understand each other in the relationship and find a way of getting along that suits both. As a netizen said, "Instead of studying tactics, it's better to improve oneself." This is so true, as sincerity and excellence are indeed the best pursuit techniques.

I hope today's sharing can give you some inspiration. Remember, love is not a math problem with a standard answer. What's important is to stay sincere, feel with your heart, and believe that the love meant for you will eventually come.