Some boys report that when they chat with a cold girl, the other party responds very little or even doesn’t reply at all. When they meet such a cold girl, they don’t know how to chat at all. In fact, most girls in life just act cold and cold, which is their protective shell to scare away some worthless and evil-minded men. So how do you chat with a cold girl?
1. When you meet a cold girl How do girls chat?
1. Girls who have just met are cool when chatting
For girls who have just met, chatting coolly is mostly due to girls’ self-protection and social masks. At this time, the other party doesn't know you well yet, so you need to guide the topic more and quickly bypass the unfamiliarity by pretending to be familiar.
Boys: hi girl
Girls: Hmm
Boys: You look like a southern girl
Girls: Hmm
Boys: It seems that I am more suitable to do business with you
Girls: Hahaha, I am from the north
If you try for many rounds in a row , all failed to break the ice. There must be a possibility that girls use cold tactics to push away worthless men. At this time, you can resolve it by expressing your true attitude. An authentic attitude can attract women because most men are afraid to be their true selves.
Boys: hi girl
Girls: Hmm
Boys: You will look good with short hair
Girls: Hmm
< p> Boy: Just came out of the gym, what are you doingGirl: Yeah
Boy: I can’t accept what you are saying/ Speak well (express your true attitude)</ p>
Girls: Haha, I used to have short hair (successfully resolved)
Boys: Right, I have always had a good eye.
If the other party reacts coldly, finish expressing The other party's true attitude has not changed. This means that the other party does not want to chat at the moment, or the other party has no window for the time being, or simply does not want to chat with you. Whatever the reason, it’s time to stop chatting.
You can try again after a day or two, or interact through likes and messages in Moments. If the other party replies to you, you can try to chat privately. If none of the above methods work, stop teasing for the time being.
2. Girls who have known each other for a long time are cold-hearted when chatting
If the girl just met, the reaction is not bad, but after chatting for a while, the other party starts to become cold-hearted.
The reason is either that you made a lot of points-reducing mistakes, causing the place to lose interest in you. For example, confession, flattery, logical persuasion, low mood, etc.
Or, the other person has just started to have feelings for you.Yes, but through contact, I found that you are not attractive at all, and then I lost interest in you and became aloof.
No matter which of the above two reasons is the reason, it is not easy to deal with! Unlike the aloof girl you just met, the girl may just be a social mask and self-protection. If a girl you've known for a long time suddenly becomes aloof, it's basically because she's no longer interested in you. If the other party is not interested in you, it is difficult to change through chatting. Suggestion, give up for now.
If your own attractiveness has greatly improved in a short period of time, there is still some hope.
The last situation is that the other party is very cold from beginning to end. Basically it's because your value is too low to match her, and the other party is not interested in you. This is equivalent to if you go to sell a bottle of water, and a girl has had a full stomach of milk tea, how can she buy your water?!
If you want to change a girl’s attitude towards you, you need to Swap the water for a more appealing drink, such as a cup of Internet milk tea. Correspondingly, you need to improve yourself, whether in terms of image or core, to make a girl feel that you are more attractive than the suitors around her, so that you can re-arouse her interest.
2. How to chase a cold girl
1. Tall Coldness is just her mask
First of all, don’t be afraid of a cold girl. It’s not okay to be timid when meeting a cold girl. Because girls use this strategy to scare away worthless men and keep valuable men. From a woman's perspective, a man who cannot even see through a woman's cold mask means that he is unattractive.
Many girls are cold on the outside and hot on the inside. They are aloof to strange and indifferent men, but enthusiastic to attractive and familiar men. Therefore, don’t be frightened by a girl’s initial coldness.
2. Maintain social status
The reason why girls are aloof is that they are either temporarily not interested in you, or they want to test you in this way. Never give her a warm face but a cold butt! If the other party responds coldly, don't convey any sense of need or give her too much interest. If you try to please her and cater to her, she will only despise you even more and think you are worthless.
In any social interaction, there will be different social statuses, such as boss and employee, teacher and student, goddess and licking dog. Those with lower social status tend to cater to those with higher social status. In order to gain recognition from the high-value party, the low-value party will work hard to please, hoping to win a response from the high-value party.
If a girl is cold, but you constantly lower yourself, show kindness to her, and praise her, then you will become a person of low value and will be reversely rationalized by women as having low value. For girls who are aloof, they must not lose points or cater to them. Let the other person feel that you are also a person with standards and value.
3. Provide more value
Many people think that telling girls a joke, sharing a joke, and pleasing women are providing value. In fact, if you are doing these behaviors to win a girl's favor, you are not providing, but exchanging with the woman.
True provision is one that has no sense of need and does not ask for anything. People want to be friends with people who can provide value, not with people who take value. Just like you would rather be friends with a rich man than a beggar.
Value is in all directions. Your life is rich and colorful. It is a value. Your knowledge and talents are also a value. Your liking of sports is a value. Loving life is also a value. Even you Being very humorous and having high emotional intelligence is also a value.
The appearance of value will cause a chemical reaction in girls’ emotional circuits, making women feel attracted. When a girl is attracted to you and has feelings for you, she will naturally no longer be aloof.
3. Girls react coldly, do you want to talk?
It depends on the situation whether there is a chance for a cold-hearted girl and whether she should continue chatting and pursuing her. It is a normal reaction for girls to be aloof at first, and you can continue to try. If you have known each other for a long time and the other person still reacts coldly, it probably means he is not interested in you.
If the other party is not interested in you, it will be difficult to change what he said. You need to improve your attractiveness to change the other person's attitude.
