Some boys often don’t know how to chat with girls when chatting, and they will feel nervous once chatting with girls! These phenomena are of course very detrimental to the progress of flirting with girls. Therefore, let’s understand the underlying reasons for this tension and effectively overcome it so that you can have fun talking and laughing with girls during chats.
Causes of nervous chatting
Nervousness is a natural human emotion: it is the human spirit or body responding to the outside world. A state in which things react in an intensified manner. The main trigger is fear of the unknown. Therefore, there are three main reasons for tension when chatting with girls.
1. Fear of being exposed. Everyone wears a mask, especially in the process of flirting with girls. Some boys can't help but set a very good label for themselves, because in this way they can be more attractive and win the favor of girls. Therefore, when chatting with girls, bragging without limit is of course not acceptable, because this will not only make you easily feel nervous, but will also destroy the girl’s trust in you!
2. Concern about uncertainty. When chatting, boys all hope that they can talk and laugh happily, be funny and eager to please each other. However, due to lack of experience or limited ability, you are not sure whether you can achieve this goal, which will create a sense of tension. In actual situations, it will make us even more "ugly".
3. Fear of failure. When flirting with a girl, what should you do if you always think that you said the wrong thing? Does she dislike the topic you are talking about? Is your tone appropriate? When chatting, you should devote yourself to it instead of always saying it. In fear of failure, everyone will say the wrong thing in chat, and everyone will make mistakes. If you are always worrying about things that have nothing to do with the content of the chat, then no matter who you are, you will not make the other party feel comfortable!
How? Overcome nervousness during chat
Be fully prepared. The first time I ride a bike, the first time I go on a long trip, the first time I fall in love, etc., all are because it is the "first time". Since I have never done it before, my understanding of the whole process is very vague. The same is true for chatting. I am not very familiar with the beginning and continuation of a topic, so be fully prepared before chatting - chatting topics and alternate topics, chatting tone, chatting atmosphere, etc.
Positive inner hints. This kind of tension is often caused by negative psychological hints about oneself during the chat. Originally, the performance in the process was quite satisfactory, but because of my own negative psychological implications, the follow-up became boring and boring. Therefore, we should always believe in ourselves and send positive inner hints to ourselves!
How to chat with girls
Adapt measures to local conditions and teach students in accordance with their aptitude. When chatting with girls, you should use the chat areas and methods that girls are better at. Only in this way will girls become interested in your topic and actively cooperate with you. . Therefore, you should know the differences between boys and girls before chatting.
Boys prefer extended chats, like to discuss the essence behind a certain phenomenon, and usually like to conclude with a summary. Girls prefer divergent chats. They like to discuss things they are interested in and express their opinions through relevance.
Refer to the differences in thinking patterns to explore her points of interest and use divergent methods. Method: Chat with a girl. When a girl receives a "point of interest" signal (just like a gamer talking about a game or a movie fan talking about a movie), her adrenaline will naturally stimulate her to respond accordingly
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