Fighting is an inevitable problem that couples will encounter. Sometimes the girlfriend may become very angry because of some things, and even the noise of the quarrel is very fierce. As boyfriends, how should we deal with this? Suggestions will be given below from several aspects.
1. Calm down
When your girlfriends start to argue, the first thing to do is to stay calm. Don't be swayed by her emotions and don't argue with her. If you get agitated too, it will only make the situation worse. Instead, staying calm can help you better understand her emotions and find ways to solve the problem.
2. Listen and express understanding
After your girlfriend vents her emotions, you can take the initiative to listen to her complaints and dissatisfaction. Don't interrupt her or try to defend or explain. Just listen quietly and convey your understanding of her feelings through body language and eyes. Doing this will help her feel your care and respect and relieve her anger.
At the same time, you can also express your understanding of her at the appropriate time. Tell her that you understand why she is angry and that her feelings are legitimate. Doing this will make her feel valued and understood, thus reducing the likelihood of a fight.
3. Avoid blaming and attacking
In a quarrel, it is easy to fall into a state of blaming and attacking each other. However, this will only exacerbate conflicts and make the problem more complicated. Therefore, when communicating with your girlfriend, avoid using accusatory language and offensive words.
Instead, try to use "I" to express your feelings and needs instead of directly blaming the other person. For example, say "I feel hurt," instead of "You always hurt me." This can reduce the other party's defensiveness and promote problem resolution.
4. Looking for solutions
Quarrels often arise from the two parties having different views or needs on a certain issue. When your girlfriend calms down, you can suggest working together to find a solution. First, make sure both parties can express their needs and opinions openly, and then explore possible solutions together.
During this process, keep an open mind and respect each other's opinions. If both parties can solve the problem in a cooperative manner, an argument can quickly turn into an opportunity for relationship growth.
5. Give time and space
Sometimes, your girlfriend may need some time and space to calm down. When she's emotional, don't press her or force her to solve the problem. Instead, give her some time and space to calm down, think about the problem, and find what she really wants to express.
At the same time, you can also use this time to reflect on whether there are problems with your words and deeds, and think about them.Consider how to improve the communication between yourself and your girlfriend. Only when both parties can calm down and actively seek solutions can conflicts be truly resolved.
6. Learn to apologize and forgive
In a quarrel, either you or your girlfriend may say hurtful words. Learning to apologize and forgive is key to rebuilding a relationship when the situation has calmed down. If you realize your mistake, don't hesitate to apologize to your girlfriend and promise to correct your mistake.
Similarly, if your girlfriend apologizes to you, you must also learn to forgive her and express your understanding and support for her. Only through apology and forgiveness can both parties truly learn from the quarrel and grow together.
When faced with a violent girlfriend, a boyfriend should stay calm, listen and express understanding, avoid accusations and attacks, find solutions, give time and space, and learn to apologize and forgive. Only through these methods can we better handle quarrels and promote the development of our relationships.
