Whether we are friends or lovers, we all need to chat to get closer to each other. Chatting increases the understanding between both parties and enhances the relationship between them.
When you are in a sweet relationship, you will find that a lot of what you talk about when you are together is "nonsense."
But when you eliminate these "nonsense" in the chat, you will find that the communication between two people becomes business-like, just like the atmosphere of a company meeting, only talking about some important "big things", almost There is no emotion at all.
If you want to truly get into a man's heart in a relationship, you still need to master some chatting skills and turn these "nonsense" into a unique chat password between you, so that the two of you can enjoy each other's hearts. People's feelings will heat up to the next level.
1. Advance and retreat in moderation.
In a relationship, when we give ourselves to each other wholeheartedly, we will be happy with each other. . However, no matter how much you like someone, don’t devote yourself completely to it. You must keep some sense and don’t be carried away by your feelings.
If you want to get into a man’s heart, you must first let him love you. Generate interest.
How to make him interested in you? The most important thing is to take the initiative to end the climax of your relationship so that he can't stop and have the desire to continue exploring.
Just like when watching a drama, you always look forward to the reversal in the next second. The same is true in relationships. The sudden end of the relationship will also make people look forward to the next time.
For example, when going on a date, Tell him, "My house is closed and I have to go back. Let's talk next time."
Some women may think, "I just ended a date, will he be disappointed and won't ask me out next time." ”.
Actually, the opposite is true. Men will think, “The conversation was good today, I’ll ask her to continue chatting next time.” Although a little disappointed, his expectations for the next time far exceed A small disappointment.
2. Talk about details to create memory points
Many times in relationships, we are always used to using fixed words to care about each other, such as "Have you eaten? ? "What are you doing?" "Are you tired?" But these fixed expressions will make people have no desire to reply.
If this continues for a long time, both parties will feel that there is no common topic between you, and gradually you will no longer have the idea of ????communicating.
If you want to capture a man’s heart, stop using this fixed language. You need to learn to talk about details so that the other person feels that you are protecting your relationship with all your heart. This is the only chat code between you.
For example, when you ask a man "What are you doing", you can change it to "What are you doing now? I just passed by a restaurant we used to go to, and their home decoration Okay, let’s eat together next time.”
If you simply ask him what he is doing, he can choose to answer orThe person did not answer. But when you make the question more specific, it will not only bring back wonderful and unique memories for you, but it will also expand the topic and strengthen his memory.
3. Learn to listen and get into his heart
Whether you are a couple in love or a married couple, you must learn to listen. Listening is a very important form of communication in relationships.
Chat is a mutual process. It is wrong for one party to talk but not listen, and for the other party to listen but not talk. But sometimes, women forget and regard chatting as their main area. They just complain about their troubles without giving the other party any chance to speak. Gradually, men are not willing to talk.
In fact, a man rarely tells outsiders about his troubles. He will only talk to his good friends and family, because he feels that his family can allow him to release his troubles without any defense.
At this time, you must seize the opportunity, listen to his troubles, comfort him, give him some suggestions, and help him get out of the predicament. Even if you can't help him solve his problem, just listening can make him feel better.
For example, his work has not been going well recently, and his grades are always unsatisfactory. If he tells you that he hasn't been doing well at work lately, that he's under a lot of pressure, and that his clients are giving him a hard time. You can listen to him patiently and comfort him. Encourage him, "In my heart, you will always be the best", give him confidence and be a caring lover.
Love requires mutual understanding and hard work. No relationship is smooth sailing, there will be some twists and turns, just like a ship on the sea. Although it will experience wind and waves, as long as it sails properly, it can reach the other shore safely.
The same is true in relationships. As long as you work hard and use some tricks, you can truly get into a man's heart, make him never leave you, and heat up your relationship.
