The scariest thing emotionally is not being single, but that you obviously have a girlfriend, but inadvertently find that your girlfriend is playing various dating apps. No matter what the purpose of your girlfriend is, if you have a girlfriend and you are still keen on using dating apps, it is unlikely to be a happy thing. If you question her directly, she may also say: "I just made friends on the normal forum and didn't do anything." So what should you do if you find various dating apps on your girlfriend's phone? This article will analyze it clearly for you.
1. Give your girlfriend a chance to explain
When you find your girlfriend, she is obviously contacting you, but she is still contacting people you know personally on the dating app. If you If you pay attention to this aspect, it will be difficult to keep up with your current mood. Now that things have developed, the most common plot is that after discovering it, you take the evidence and get angry and ask your girlfriend if it is true, and then your girlfriend is made angry and angry. One party accuses the other party of cheating and cheating; on the other hand, she feels that you lack trust in her and even limit the rights of friends. Finally, you accuse your girlfriend of criticizing her and arguing endlessly. In the end, you can only end up in discord without consensus.
Here is a suggestion: when you accidentally discover that your girlfriend is using a dating app, please adjust your emotions first and avoid rushing to question your girlfriend or say unpleasant things when you are angry. It is assumed that the girlfriend is cheating or has other intentions. This kind of questioning will definitely not get the real answers and good results you want.
It is undeniable that some people will open dating apps when they are in a relationship, maybe because they are chatting with others or have a tendency to cheat. However, it is undeniable that there are still some people who use dating apps simply to make friends or get to know people. The purpose is for professional reasons. It may be that the nature of the business requires a wide network of contacts, understanding of all parties, and striving for performance. The more the better; even in the creative arts community, you need to find stories or interesting people.
Therefore, when you discover various dating apps on your girlfriend’s mobile phone, it is recommended that you don’t get angry in a hurry and give her a chance to explain. Maybe it's not as bad as you think, and it's not necessarily true.
2. Express your feelings rationally and calmly
When you notice that your girlfriend is still using dating apps, but you don’t mind or care about people who use dating apps for your lover When, you may have the following three choices: get the evidence immediately and ask your girlfriend angrily; second, because you still want to maintain this relationship, you pretend not to see it but you are hurt internally; third, adjust first Mood, find a good time. When both parties are rational and calm, sit down and talk about why she uses various dating apps.
Choose the first two, one will directly tear your relationship apart; the second, it will break your heart. Therefore, it is recommended that even if you are angry or sad,Even if you are annoyed, you should also tell yourself that you must ask and talk rationally and calmly, so that your girlfriend will not arouse her defensive psychology or become angry because of your anger, and then refuse to admit it or directly avoid communication.
3. Both parties set a bottom line for communication
If the result of your communication is that both parties are willing to work hard for this relationship, then at this moment, both parties negotiate to "set a bottom line for making friends." "This is very important. There is actually no general rule to follow for this bottom line. It all depends on how you balance the freedom to make friends with avoiding suspicion. You can agree to keep it private at all, it can be public, you can not meet, you can meet but you can't have an ambiguous or sexual relationship, or you can consider an open relationship. Any boundaries are possible, depending on your acceptance.
The purpose of setting a bottom line is to make both parties feel "respected and valued", so that one party will not Have a greater say, or the other party can feel unilaterally willful in the relationship. And this is also the only way for one party to truly untie his knot after discovering that his girlfriend has software.
Of course, if you find that your girlfriend has crossed the agreed-upon friendship boundary, please stand firm and do not compromise. Because once something happens in a relationship, even if you say you forgive, there will always be a thorn in your heart.
