Many times, when two people just get together, they will rack their brains to think of ways to start a pregnancy, and they seem to be very talkative. But if you have been in love or married for a long time, you will gradually get tired, and you will have nothing to talk about or a common language. So what should you do if there is no common language between husband and wife? Can the marriage still go on?
1. Set a goal for each other
In marriage, men must play the leading role. The role of the leading role is to set the direction for the family. If men live with goals and directions, women can be more successful. Let’s work hard together for the family. Men are miserable and women have no hope. If a person lives without hope, he is dead. For example, it’s hard to do business these days, it’s hard to make money, and men feel like they have no end in sight when working in the workplace, so of course they feel that they have nothing in common with their wives. At this time, you might as well set a mutual goal with your wife, such as renovating the new house, saving money to buy a good car, raising the next generation well, buying a house in a school district... The husband and wife must have a goal to strive for, and then they will work together for a common goal. Only through struggle can we have a common language.
2. Be true to yourself in front of each other
A husband and wife who do not have a common language are actually two people There is a problem with the link. Unilateral efforts cannot solve the problem. Both parties need to pay attention and be true to themselves in front of each other. Instead of hiding in a thick shell and doing some glamorous scene skills. Have you seen each other’s true needs? Did it show? Can you feel comfortable exposing your vulnerable side in front of your partner? Or do you just dare to show your strength? Are you afraid of being attacked after showing weakness? Are you afraid that you will love too much? Do you love yourself? Only if you love yourself enough can you have the energy to love others, otherwise you will be asking for each other.
3. Be proactive
In fact, many people feel that there is no common language between husband and wife. In fact, it is themselves If you become lazy and unwilling to start the topic, you can spend more time with your wife, share with her the little things about you today, and pay more attention to her. Don't be immersed in your own world all day long and ignore her. When I get home, I do housework, cook, and do laundry. Care about her in words, care about her in actions, spend money on her, and no longer sneer at the things she likes. Actually, in one sentence, if you can treat her as proactively as you did when you first chased her, it will probably be fine.
Finally, after discovering that there is no common language between husband and wife, you should examine your marriage. How many years have you been married? Secondly, you should understand that there are only so many topics for everyone. Once the conversation is over, there will be no more topics. For example, will you have topics to talk about every day for 2-3 years in a row with your netizens? Probably not, it’s basically just chatting and there’s nothing to talk about, so this is a matter of human nature andPeople get along with each other in common, so it is very normal for there to be no topics. This is a normal phenomenon!
