When chatting with a girl, she always stops talking after chatting. Why does this happen? If chatting is compared to a big tree, then our mentality is like the roots of the tree, which is the backbone. . Only when the chassis is stable can the tree trunks and branches above it thrive.
Today, let’s take a good look at this “tree”.
1. Underlying logic
First of all, let’s talk about the issue of adjusting the mentality. Here we will mention one Word: empathy. It is like your tree trunk, and it is also a very core existence.
Secondly, before chatting, you have to understand one thing:
The next chat is not between you and her, but between you and her, three people of.
This third person is still yourself. It’s the more secretive, timid, shy and hesitant you!
In fact, it is obvious that we are all contradictory, we are always habitually inconsistent with our words, and habitually overturn ourselves. Own.
“Should I go or not?”
“It’s better not to go”
“It’s not good if I don’t go”
This kind of talking to oneself, one person playing two roles, I believe everyone does it often. As I just said, it represents your lack of confidence and another side of you.
After understanding this, if you want to perform well when chatting with girls, you must hint at your other self in advance and put aside the idea of ??being unconfident and wanting to withdraw.
Present a completely confident and determined state in front of girls. When chatting, it will be much smoother.
2. Increase the sense of substitution
As mentioned earlier, we compare chatting to a tree. Yes, it is the branches and branches of the tree.
However, a tree must have leaves to appear alive. That is, "sense of substitution".
Just like you are a screenwriter now. If you want to write a script about urban love, what is the most indispensable thing? The hero and heroine.
Then what is the main task of the male protagonist? It is to enter the female protagonist’s life.
For example, when the heroine was shopping for groceries today, she was squeezed by the aunts at the market. She complained to the male protagonist:
Female: Today, the aunties squeezed me. My little white shoes are all dirty!
Male: Auntie is so awesome!
You said that your drama ended in the first episode because it was two episodes. An innocent person was chatting awkwardly.
If you want to get enough episodes and play until the lovers finally get married, what the male protagonist has to do is to add his sense of substitution and bring it into the heroine’s life as much as possible, so the simplest, when chatting, we must empathize with each other.
So what should he say?
Male: No wonder you are so annoyed. I understand it too. It’s okay. My white shoes are dirty. I’ll go shopping with you on Saturday. New~
Female: Okay~
Look, based on this logic, you can write 80 episodes of this script without any problem.
3. Pay attention to details
OK, this big tree is basically formed, but it is not complete. Other trees also grew lush and leafy. Therefore, if we want to stand out, we must fix the details and perform regular maintenance.
Here is a summary of the three principles. You can directly copy the original text to ensure that the big tree grows wildly and reaches the big window of the girl’s bedroom.
When the other party is speaking, do not interrupt or interrupt.
When the other party finishes speaking, do not change the topic immediately or describe your own "heroic deeds". Use caution: "What do I do, what do I think."
During the chat, listen patiently and avoid showing impatience and inattention, such as looking at the watch, playing with mobile phones, looking around, shaking legs, clasping hands and other small movements.
